Why Some Men Prefer Older Women

While we imagine this is due to cougar appeal, many may actually be looking for a more stable relationship. Relationships between men and women are about more than just sex and while sex plays an important role, it is not the only factor.

We can say that Emmanuel Macron, the President of France, is an example of some men who prefer older women. His wife, Brigitte Macron, was his teacher when he was 15, and she is 25 years older than him, a considerable age difference. Perhaps not all men would seek out a woman who is a quarter of a century older, but many do prefer their partners to be a little older, and it's not because of a perverse attraction as we might imagine, but there are more specific reasons.

To them, older women are more attractive (and even stimulating) than women of the same age and it can be explained scientifically (psychologically). There have been quite a few psychologists who have tried to explain this phenomenon, one of them being Dr. Wendy L. Patrick.

Psychologist Dr. Wendy L. Patrick, based on the testimonies of several men, points out that while one might think men who seek older women are immature or have “cougar” fantasies, they actually find that type of partner better because they are “more focused, confident, and articulate,” and because they are not only focused on starting a family.

Based on a survey by Felicia Brings and Susan Winter, it also shows that some men who have dated or been attracted to older women believe that they have more life experience, are “emotionally stable,” and can be more honest and have a different perspective. This is also something that women often hear when they are attracted to older men. On the other hand, some feel more confident in attracting older women.

However, sexual fantasies cannot be ruled out because for those who like older women, sex with these women is more appealing than sex within the “age range.” For them, content like Pantyhose MILF XXX is more appealing than porn in other genres and that's certainly understandable.

But how big is the difference?

Patrick cites a study by Gloria Cowan, another specialist, who found that relationships that have a large age difference and older women are considered less successful. While she states that a 7-year age difference is generally ideal, some men's testimonies state that some want a difference of more than 10 years. 7 years and above 10 years, but still below 20 years, seems to be the preferred age difference.

One of them stated, “Younger women don't allow me to grow up like other older women,” and there may be some perception of immaturity here. While this is not a generalization, it points to the possibility that the pressure of starting a family and suddenly “forcing” maturity may be something that alienates men from women younger than them (although not all of them are seeking marriage). Therefore, older women, who may be perceived as more confident and relationship-averse, are more attractive to men. However, it depends on each case and individual mindset.

This last point is supported by a study by expert Milaine Alaire, who found that women who have dated younger men consider themselves more passive when it comes to being in a relationship, because-as they get older-they may focus on not following the rules society set for marriage when they were younger.

So if you're one of those who like older men, one of those so-called women, there's nothing wrong with that. In the end, everyone has different preferences.